When have u pushed a partner too far and how have u handled it?ģ2. Do u believe in and practice aftercare? What does it look like for u?ģ1. Do u believe in and practice safewords?ģ0. What sort of kinks/fetishes do u have?Ģ9. What honorific titles do u like and dislike? Daddy, Papa, Sir, Mommy, Mama, Miss, babygirl, babyboy, princess, prince etcĢ8. Are u into Ageplay, and if so what does that look like for u?Ģ6. Do u have a little age and does it fluctuate?Ģ5. If u are ok with diapers, are u only ok with them being worn, or are u also ok with them being messed and to what degree?Ģ4. Are u into AB or AB/DL, and if so what does that look like for u?Ģ3. Are u an age regressor and if so what does that look like for u?Ģ2. If u are a Switch, do u desire to switch roles with me, or seek fulfillment of ur other role from somebody else? Are u ok with no switching within this dynamic/arrangement?Ģ1. Do u have various headspaces, besides being a Daddy/Mommy or little? For example, are u also a pet, slave, Master, Mistress, Switch etc?Ģ0. Do u experience littlespace? If so, what does it look like for u and what helps trigger it?ġ9. What does Daddyspace/Mommyspace look like for u? What helps trigger it?ġ8.

What sort of things within this dynamic do u need vs what do u want?ġ7.

How do u expect ur little to act towards other Dominants?ġ6. Do u like high, medium, or low protocol? Or none at all?ġ5. Do u desire rewards and punishments as a behavior modifier and if so, what is and is not on the table for u as a point of interest?ġ4. Do u like rules, structure, tasks etc? If so, what is an idea of the sort of rules, structure, tasks etc that u enjoy and dislike?ġ3. Do u like things in the dynamic to be strict, laidback, or a balance of both?ġ2. Do u consider urself clingy and if so, to what degree?ġ1. Do u desire a 24/7 dynamic, or something more occasional?ĩ. What sort of powerplay element do u enjoy?Ĩ. Do u desire a BDSM Power Exchange that all parties acknowledge and consent to a powerplay element in your dynamic that is purposefully seeked after?Ħ. What do u look for in a Daddy/Mommy/little?ĥ. What do u like about being a Daddy/Mommy/little?Ģ. Can I have references of ur past littles/Daddies/Mommies? (If this is something u desire)ġ. What past experience do u have with DD/lg, or BDSM overall?ġ7. Are u a virgin? If so, are u waiting for marriage, or something else?ġ6. If a sexual dynamic is desired, will u be willing to get tested for STI's and provide paperwork?ġ5. Do u have any sexual diseases, mental disabilites, physical conditions or other alignments?ġ4. If u are poly, do u prefer a family dynamic where everyone knows and engages with each other? Or a dynamic where everyone knows about each other, but does not have romantic or sexual relations with each other? Perhaps something else?ġ3. Are u mono, poly, a swinger or something else?ġ2. Are u looking for a gf/bf, gf/gf, bf/bf relationship as well, or a strictly DD/lg dynamic?ġ1. Are u looking for a platonic or romantic dynamic?ġ0. Is this dynamic nonsexual, strictly sexual, or a mix of both for u?ĩ. Do u desire a long term or short term dynamic?Ĩ. Are u dating someone currently? If so, are they aware u are dating others?ħ. Are u single in both the vanilla and DD/lg world?Ħ. What is ur sex and gender? Female, male, intersex, transgender, genderfluid etcĥ. It also helps with getting past the, 'Hi. These questions are not intended to be asked in 1 sitting/1 conversation, but rather ideas of questions to ask over time in order to get to know someone better. No question is too small and no answer is obvious. My biggest tip when speaking to a potential partner is to not assume ANYTHING. Take what applies to u, edit questions to fit u, and leave the rest. Consider this a helping guide and by no means a rule book. This is aimed for ppl seeking a serious dynamic vs a play partner or rp situation. I have skipped super vanilla questions like, 'what's ur fav ' as I think we would be sitting here all day lol. I decided to sit down and make a list of questions to ask a potential DD/MD or little, that I hope will help increase ppl's odds of finding a compatible partner. How do u know when u are compatible with a potential DD/lg partner? By asking questions of course, but which ones? I remember when I was new and had no idea what to ask a potential Dom.

Something we are always hearing about on this forum is the importance of compatibility.

Kink compadibilty checklist